Total World Donnamation

In 2003, I reconnected with my first boyfriend. The relationship engulfed us like paper and fire. At first, it seemed as though it was all about “unfinished business” from our separation 25 years earlier.

As our communication developed, it became clear that this was no ordinary connection. We have an ability to sense when and what the other is thinking and feeling. We feel like Siamese Twins. Intuitives have told us we are soulmates. We are also soulmates with families and spouses and we live 2000 miles apart. Our intense and intimate relationship brought huge changes in ourselves. Our relationship and the love we share is a rare gift and we feel lucky to experience it.

Our connection opened us to new possibilities and eventually split us apart so we could share our learning with others. It made us aware that our lives are for serving and teaching others. Our mission is to teach others how to live with deep spiritual love and bonds.

What is Love?
Love is a heart pouring out gratitude.
Love is a connection that is tangible.
Love is a good, sweet feeling that inspires good, sweet actions.

The willingness to give your beloved your best–even when you don’t want to.

The act of spiritual loving means being honest with no secrets or shame. It is when you live with an eye on your higher selves, always. It requires forgiveness of your beloved’s mortal being and of yourself. It requires courage to speak and to listen, especially when you are afraid to. It means acknowledging your past lives together and figuring out the mission that has brought you together in this life. It requires a commitment to that mission. It is not always happy or pretty. It can be literally heartbreaking. Yet, throughout the hard times, there is an understanding and connection that defies logic. There is the understanding that there are expansive loving souls connected to our petty and mortal bodies.

When the loving relationship falls apart

Sometimes, one lover doesn’t understand or refuses the spiritual mission. Sometimes lovers commit to the impossible, taking several decades or lives to work their mission. Sometimes, the mission between the lovers has been accomplished. Sometimes, the mission of the relationship is to provide growth through constant conflict or difficult events. These “Soulmates From Hell” inspire breathtaking life changes when the partners do their work.

The heart knows its path

Our conscious mind can connect with our hearts and learn deep and spiritual love. When that spiritual connection is made in the mind, it manifests on all levels: physical, emotional and mental within the framework of an interesting and compelling relationship. It is up to the lover to overcome fears of embarrassment or social convention and to follow his or her heart. Only then will the lover understand that the heart has its reasons for loving….and those reasons help us become better human beings.

Donna is the mother of 3 adolescents, including twins. She is a healer who specializes in parenting. She leads several support groups in New Paltz including “Parenting Teens” and “La Leche League”.