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Evelyn* is successful by anyone’s terms: a great job, a beautiful house, regular vacations to interesting places, three successful and married children and numerous grandchildren whom she spends time with. Nobody could have guessed the sadness in her heart from losing her husband. If she hadn’t been diagnosed with breast cancer, she might not have even guessed. Faced with overwhelming options in treatment, the possibility of dying, and the constant pain of her illness, she started looking within herself for answers. What she found surprised and scared her.

Mourning the loss of a loved one can be put off indefinitely…..eating, shopping, working, and socializing all push grief away where it doesn’t hurt…so much. At some point, most people come face to face with the sadness. With the right support, moving through grief can be an eye-opening time of discovery and connection with those still living and the spirit of those who passed.

Evelyn came for her first session cheerful and optimistic that her illness was another thing she could plan, prioritize and overcome. She had researched doctors, treatments, hospitals, and had joined a support group at her local hospital. As she talked about her plans, tears welled up in her eyes and she admitted that underneath the face there was real fear that her plan would fail and she would die. I asked her to start breathing through her nose which would calm her.

I muscle checked that Evelyn was needing to state her Intention for a New Possibility in her life. She started talking about how her husband’s death had been so sudden that she had supported her family’s grief and had never taken time to acknowledge her own loss. She stated her intention: “I grieve Danny’s death”. She started sobbing. Again, I asked her to start breathing through her nose. It was difficult for her and took a minute until she had regained some composure. We continued breathing together and paid attention to what sensations she was experiencing in her body. There was a constriction around her heart, tightness in her neck and shoulders and an overwhelming sadness. We acknowledged all the areas that were needing attention and the sadness moved through her, leaving her feeling more relaxed and able to proceed.

The Energy Constriction Release took Evelyn back to an earlier age. The second part of the release is a communication that happened between Evelyn and me, proxying for her father. I muscle-checked that at age two, Evelyn needed to say to her Dad, ” I’m sad” and needed to have her father hold her hand and allow her to be sad without distraction.

In other words, Evelyn needed to learn that she could resolve strong feelings in her own time and way. The remainder of the session pulled in beliefs about having to do everything for others, about ignoring herself, and other statements she resonated with. The modalities we used to transform her old patterns were a breathing pattern and pink color filter lenses. She noticed how much clearer she was thinking and felt that some of the sadness had gone. She left with a Positive Action to spend 10 minutes a day for 7 days grieving for her husband–visiting his grave, talking with his spirit, and praying to God for help with her sadness.

Evelyn came back for 5 more sessions, during which her grief resolved. The sessions covered many areas of her life which she previously hadn’t linked. Her new understanding of herself has helped her to remain optimistic and hopeful during her treatments for breast cancer. She feels a new closeness with her children and more patience within herself.

*Evelyn is a composite of several clients

Quitting smoking is high up on a lot of smoker’s list of things to do–and often put off because of the pain associated with giving up this highly addictive habit.

A client wanted to quit smoking. We started with an intention statement around breathing more easily. The session then went into the Breath Repatterning which makes sense. Smoking is clearly related to breathing. In the Breath Repatterning, there are several times when resonance with the physical act of certain breathing patterns are muscle-checked. The client noticed the discomfort associated with the breaths. As the session continued, the client recalled a feeling at birth–Resentment and disbelief around being born into a human body. It was overwhelming to consider living on earth as a human being. I worked with the client through the remembrance dialogging with that younger self. We repatterned that disbelief and resentment into acceptance and understanding. The client released some of the physical constrictions associated with the earlier event through some gentle stretching. We proceeded into a Fusion, which is a session-specific guided meditation. We concluded by checking resonance with all the beliefs and breathing habits that had come up in the beginning. The client noticed that the breathing was effortless now. All the resonance had shifted towards a more coherent way of being.

We concluded the session with a discussion of the history of tobacco use as represented in the Native American culture.